Speak what you mean to say.

I am a firm believer that, in today’s society – in the US, people have become desensitized to the power of words and the skill of saying what one means to say, delivering their message, without going around in some type of circle jerk or worse; a conversation ends with one or both parties feeling misunderstood and mixed messaging. I believe that speaking with intent is a skill. Is there anyone that is not impressed by someone who speaks eloquently? Maybe it was your grandmother that once said something so profound that it has resonated with you for years. Maybe it’s a thought leader, mentor, or manager that delivers an embracing message every time they speak?

Let’s see what this course has to offer?

Speak with Purpose not Impulse – provided by Daily

Emotional Security – Ownus

Good morning dear people.

Amidst all the adversity during this pandemic, no where can it be more important to tap into what you’re feeling, get down to the root cause of your deep inner emotions and own your outcomes. You are hearing it everywhere, “Focus on what you can control.” or “We are going to come out of this OK.” All of this may be true, but is it easy for you to let go of the outcome? Is it easy for you to not be angry and take it out on those you, “Love”? Managing your emotions is essential to living a quality healthy life (at least I think so, as do many experts).

This article depicts the challenges of emotional staging and how faking it wears you down – giving cause to my purpose – to help you identify the whys of the why nots. Check it out and let me know what you think.

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/smiling-when-you-don-t-feel-like-it-has-harmful-psychological-consequences?utm_source=pocket-newtab

What do you desire?

I love this question because every time I ask those I work with what they desire, the most common response is something like, “I have never given that any thought” or “Gosh, I don’t really know.”

“What do you mean ‘committed to chaos,’ Alyssa? Why would I be committed to chaos?!?”⁣

For some, chaos helps you stay distracted from facing what scares you.⁣

For example, let’s say you’re at a financially stable day job and you want to quit but…………. you’re terrified that you’ll lose the stability that your day job offers!⁣⁣

So… you find yourself in chaos.⁣⁣

No time to work on your business…⁣
Your to-do list just grows and grows…⁣
You can’t find a moment to yourself…⁣
Things at work and home are blowing up…⁣

…….or are they⁉️⁣

When you’re afraid to take the next step, you can often CREATE chaos.⁣

Maybe you add things to your to-do list that don’t need to be on there.⁣

Or you develop intense levels of perfectionism that keep you working on your website for 6 months instead of the week it needs.⁣

With things taking so long because you’re so busy, you’ll never get what you REALLY want: to quit your day job.⁣

Sound familiar?⁣⁣

If it is, fill in the blank:⁣⁣

“One fear I have of getting what I want is _________ .”⁣

From Alyssa Norbriga, www.AlyssiaNorbriga.com

What do you really want?

Pocket Worthy

The Four Desires Driving All Human Behavior

Bertrand Russell’s magnificent Nobel prize acceptance speech.

Brain Pickings | Maria Popova

Bertrand Russell (May 18, 1872–February 2, 1970) endures as one of humanity’s most lucid and luminous minds — an oracle of timeless wisdom on everything from what “the good life” really means to why “fruitful monotony” is essential for happiness to love, sex, and our moral superstitions. In 1950, he was awarded the Nobel Prize in Literature for “his varied and significant writings in which he champions humanitarian ideals and freedom of thought.” On December 11 of that year, 78-year-old Russell took the podium in Stockholm to receive the grand accolade.

Later included in Nobel Writers on Writing (public library) — which also gave us Pearl S. Buck, the youngest woman to receive the Nobel Prize in Literature, on art, writing, and the nature of creativity — his acceptance speech is one of the finest packets of human thought ever delivered from a stage.

Russell begins by considering the central motive driving human behavior:

All human activity is prompted by desire. There is a wholly fallacious theory advanced by some earnest moralists to the effect that it is possible to resist desire in the interests of duty and moral principle. I say this is fallacious, not because no man ever acts from a sense of duty, but because duty has no hold on him unless he desires to be dutiful. If you wish to know what men will do, you must know not only, or principally, their material circumstances, but rather the whole system of their desires with their relative strengths.

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Man differs from other animals in one very important respect, and that is that he has some desires which are, so to speak, infinite, which can never be fully gratified, and which would keep him restless even in Paradise. The boa constrictor, when he has had an adequate meal, goes to sleep, and does not wake until he needs another meal. Human beings, for the most part, are not like this.

Read the full article HERE

Quote for today

If you want to be happy, set a goal that demands your thoughts, ignites your energy, and sparks your hopes. — Ginger Ross

Anxiety is paralyzing

So many of my friends and colleagues now experience anxiety. Anxiety can be caused by many different issues. Some can be managed by self awareness and mindfulness, while others must be managed under the care of a medical professional. If you suffer mild anxiety you can manage it yourself. Here’s the trickiest part – you have to be willing to do the work. Here’s an interesting article that I hope you find helpful.